Кејтлин Флајџер, мајка на две деца, го долови моментот кога нејзиниот петгодишен син Џек сфати дека нема да живее со неа засекогаш, и тој момент беше премногу тажен. Таа гледаше телевизија со нејзиниот син Џек кој забележа дека ликот на телевизија не живее дома со неговите родители, па затоа брзо ја праша зошто е тоа така.
Кејтлин се обиде да му објасни дека откако децата ќе пораснат, тие на крајот се оддалечуваат од своите родители, но одговорот на Џек истовремено бил и тажен и сладок. После тоа, Џек започна да се жали и да плаче по самата помисла да живее без својата мајка, и таа успеа сето тоа да го сними на камера.
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“What if you marry a boy or a girl? Then you will want to move out of mommy’s house!” is something I say to my five year old son often. I always get comments, looks, and shocked eyes when I say that. The fact that I give him a choice, instead of just assuming he is going to grow up and marry a women, is shocking to many people. But it shouldn’t be. I spent many hours watching “coming out” videos on YouTube, Facebook, you name it, I’ve probably watched it, a few years back. And I noticed something similar in most of the videos. These teens/adults were terrified. Terrified to tell their parents they were in love, with the same gender as them. All I could think watching these were “wow, I really hope my children never feel fear telling me anything. Especially when it’s about someone they love..” So when my kids were around 4, I would say the usual “mommy wants you to live with me forever.” And my children would always say “I’m never moving out I love you!” And to which I would say back to my son “what if you find an amazing girl to marry? Then I’m sure you won’t be sad about moving out!” I thought about what I had said for a minute. Why has I assumed he would grow up to marry a woman? Is this slowly making him believe he can only grow up to love a girl? Am I slowly making him scared to tell me about the possibility that he will grow up to love a man? So I changed the way I worded things. I started asking “what if you marry an amazing woman or man when you grow up?” I started saying “I can’t wait to see who you grow up to be, and what girl or boy, or whoever, you bring home to meet mommy.” I want my children to know I will always love them, and that I will always support them, no matter who they love. I know it’s a small thing, but you never know what makes a big impact on your young children. Because I will love my son no matter what, and I never want him to be scared to tell me anything. Start normalizing that it’s okay to love whoever you want.
A post shared by Caitlin Fladager (@caitlinfladager) on May 7, 2020 at 4:35pm PDT
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What’s it like where you live, regarding the coronavirus? In my town, any events with more than 250 people have been cancelled, school is out right now for spring break, but plans to re open on time still, malls, gyms, and restaurants are still open, and if you cross the border, you must self quarantine for 14 days when you return. What are the restrictions where you live? Is everything closed? I’m super curious.
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